LBS trying to get it right

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You need to start a new thread.

If you would normally go to sleep at this time, go to sleep, don't base your actions on her.

What I mean about growth is that living with the WAS/WS is very difficult and you see things much more often than if you were physically separated. You will have expectations crushing you more often than someone with limited contact and will force you to change or you will suffer and go crazy. You watching her being nice and friendly and deep down think its because things are getting better. Well, when things get worse it knocks you on your ass.

There are a lot of negatives to being separated in house and it will be very very difficult to detach and let go as a result of living with a friendly spouse. I have thoughts on what it takes to let go and detach, something I'm working on and I now think it's just much harder with a friendly spouse than one is spewing at you and throwing pain in your face.