I may not have explained it all, but it was definitely during the tax issue. I tried EVERYTHING possible after she changed her mind to try and get her to file together like we originally planned. She chose not to, lost money and then told me I was trying to pull one over. She was yelling and screaming at me in front of D4 and I asked if I was, why did I try 7 different times to say it was a better idea to file together. She just stared at me with absolutely no response.
At that very moment, I realized that no matter what she was going to blame me; even if I was trying to do the right thing. The last little bit of blaming myself for what happened melted away and I realized right there this was not the person I married. She was totally self absorbed and selfish. She turned off her entire life, all of her closest friends she stopped interacting with, helping me realize that the issues were not mine, but hers and hers to address or ignore. Nothing I could do can convince her to do that.
I just knew right there that "I" didn't know this person anymore. I was just talking to one of her former close friends and she said she just wanted at some point the "caring, kind, compassionate WW" to find her way back. That the person she has become is so sad. I wholeheartedly agree.
M:36 W:37 T: 15 M:11 S6 D5 BD: 8/10/14 IDLY: 8/12/14 S: 8/13/14 (she left, I stayed w/ kids) D Mentioned: 10/15/14 Confronted about OM: 10/15/14 EA: ~4/13 PA: ~10/13 She filed: 8/15 (not final)
