Ghost - NOBODY is saying to "move on". I believe you've used that phrase several times. Not a single other person is giving you that advice. If you want to stay married to your W, how does "moving on" help you?
What we ARE saying is to detach. This is NOT THE SAME as moving on. This doesn't mean to ignore her and start something new (as I can imagine "moving on" would entail). This means to unravel your emotional well being, your method of finding happiness, your reason for doing things from your relationship with HER and HER feelings and HER reactions. That is HEALTHY.
