WAW OR TOUGH LOVE HELP

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Lol, rebellious teenager. I say the same thing. She goes between that and angry 4 year old most of the time with flashes of the girl I married when she gets emotionally tired and lets her wall down.

ILYBNILWY, I made changes but they were, “too late,” In fact it made her mad that I didn’t do it sooner Everything was my fault, the marriage of 33 years had nothing good about it, 33 years and nothing.

So classic. Again all this stuff is textbook and word for word, just like her projecting the cheating onto you and miniming "I'm not allowed to have friends?" You will probably get you are smothering her and are insecure as well.

Sometimes, I do think the healthy thing is to cut them out of your life completely. They behave selfish and nasty during this period. If they came out of it and you could show them a greatest hits video of their BS, they would wonder how they could go against everything they say they stand for (honesty, treating others with respect, being a good christian, etc). All I do know is you can't react to her comments and transferring blame to you. You can do whatever you want with her clothes and don't have to explain yoursel. And you probably should 180 on the OM. (don't mention him, don't spy) It just hurts you and will inflame her. "You have no right to invade my privacy!" "You are sick, now I know I made the right choice to leave you!"