LBS becomes the WS. The price of peace.

[Smothy]

Isn't it over for the M when the WS decides on the D. I didn't want it but my H is and he is adamant this is the course of action,

Would I care as much if I now have OM? This is something I think about. Easy for H as h has someone else to make him feel better, as it has been said before, to self medicate.

I agree with you Py, both the LBS and the WS are in a fog. I don't deny H isn't hurting but this is his choice with his justification. Where is the for better, for worse. Is it so bad that they feel it is better to walk away? I don't think so. I agree with Zues, we made the decision to commit, and that's what's making me try as hard as I do, trouble is we thought our spouse made that commitment too, obvious to LBS that isn't the case.

I know that I have tried to commit to this marriage. I am seriously beginning to think my that one trying is not enough. One only committed is not enough. As H keeps telling me love isn't enough.

The fog/ draw of they OWN/OM is too much. I am now thinking that once OW with H implode I may become an option. I don't want that, do any of us?

Sorry to sound so negative, feeling low this evening.