All I can say having gone through every phase just about every book talks about since January, you log what works and what doesn't and only do what works! Personally, it took me 7 months to finally start to stabilize and to be able to regulary not react. I had to really stop myself today from reacting to what I thought was purposely playing songs from a CD mix I bet he made for her. But being separated in house, I would think makes it harder to detach for me. With the help here, you may even out a lot sooner. Absence does NOT make the heart grow fonder. I imagine a lot of people who really want to fix things but who have less and less contact with their spouse wake up one day and think, "I've moved on too".
H:54 W:46 D:11 D:21 M:12 BD:1/15 In-house Separation 2/15 DB started 7/15, W sees consistency 9/15 Dropping the rope and having her leave 2/16, moves 5/16 Reconciliation 1/17 Obviously still struggling