Answer to: "why didn't you hear it from ME?"

[Flight]

What an amazing support network. I should have spent more time at guy's nights instead of hanging around home hoping for a nugget of affection

The recurring comment and frustration from her seems to be, "It shouldn't have to take a woman leaving to spur a husband to finally wake up and love his wife. He should have been doing it all along. It is insulting if he only wants to change after he is afraid of losing her. It is for the wrong reasons, too little to late"

Just like Michelle says in DR, she doesn't understand why so many women feel this way and aren't thrilled that their husband is finally becomming everthing they want. I am looking for the "truth" in what she is saying because the things she repeats the most contain the keys understaning what she is feeling. Other than saying, "I understand how you feel that way, it must be frustrating to think I only got what you were telling me after all your attempts, AFTER you said you were done". I am trying to find the thoughts and feelings behind this statement and what I do with the knowledge once I find it.