Then, if all else fails, you proceed with D, knowing you gave it your all.
Where in the wedding vows does it state that if the M isn't the way you want it and you feel unhappy, then as long as you think it's failed and you've given your all it's ok to proceed with D?
May seem like I'm nit picking, but to me I feel there is a bigger gap between saying NO to D and making it acceptable conditionally, then it is to discuss the appropriate order of operations when D is acceptable.
Hey, I'm with you Zeus. I didn't mean to imply that I believe in divorce. I think that in almost every M, there is a way to work out the problems. My point was that I would much rather have someone file for D BEFORE getting involved with another person, than the other way around. I think that if 2 people sincerely give it their all, explore every option, and then BOTH come to the mutual conclusion that they would be happier apart, then I've got no problem with a D. It's still not ideal, but I have to believe would be worlds less painful that the reality of ongoing A.
Me 47 W 42 T 24 yrs M 18 yrs W living with OM BD1: 3/7/2015 (A with OM#1) BD2: 4/11/2015 (A with OM#2, W moves out) WW filed for D, papers received 9/18/2015. Meeting to determine child custody 9/29/2015.
