Then, if all else fails, you proceed with D, knowing you gave it your all.
Where in the wedding vows does it state that if the M isn't the way you want it and you feel unhappy, then as long as you think it's failed and you've given your all it's ok to proceed with D?
This type of conditional acceptance of divorce blows my mind. If it's ok to get divorced at all, does it really matter when the WAS starts screwing around with OP?
Every M will reach a point when it feels all has failed. Turns out those are just feelings though, and if you do what you're supposed to do regardless of how you feel, things change. That's why we have the vows in the first place, to stick through the 'for worse'. Maybe 2 years later, maybe 10. But it gets better, and you have committed relationships, preserved families, and a real M. Not these serial 5-10 year R's that people call M's in between rationalizations of why they are walking.
May seem like I'm nit picking, but to me I feel there is a bigger gap between saying NO to D and making it acceptable conditionally, then it is to discuss the appropriate order of operations when D is acceptable.
Me:38 XW:38 T:11 years M:8 years Kids: S14, D11, D7 BD/Move out day: 6/17/14, D final Dec 15
