The problem every human faces when things are going wrong is we think about stuff and then go round on it again, and again, and again... What happens each time you go round the loop is that you embellish things, so what was dark becomes all enveloping and it feels impossible to get out of the hole your mind has created for itself.
What you need to do is to break the cycle of the thought going round your head by distracting yourself, it's part of what GAL is all about and you also need to develop strategies for when those thoughts start to loom and take action when there isn't time to distract yourself with your GAL activities.
Many find Mindfulness Meditation the way forward - Google it there's tons out there especially the Oxford University web site, which is where the scientically proven technique was first established.
It helps you, in only 10-20 minutes a day, to gently train your mind to refocus itself onto something in the present, not the past or future. It then takes you a step further (the unique facet of Mindfulness Meditation) and guides you towards observing painful thoughts and allowing them to happen and understand how they are effecting you. But you are the observer and this simple technique, that takes a while to master, will help you to deal with all the cr@p that you have to deal with and keep you from ending up at the bottom of a deep, dark well of pity and despair. You become like a bystander of someone else's thought but they are you own
When I first came across it, I was very sceptical but stuck with it and wow, the results are amazing, just don't expect it to work overnight, it kind of creeps up on you and the benefits take you unawares, in the nicest possible way.
As everyone says, keep posting there are many here to help you in many ways that you don't even know you need just yet.
- Nobody has ever learnt anything important from happiness and success; problems make us grow - Consult your plan, not your feelings - If you haven't set goals, how can you expect to achieve anything?
