Hey Pink!! Interesting chat with MIL and you've had some great advice already. So, TauC has come up short - quell surprise!! It's nice that you still have positive contact with MIL, but I would suggest you don't focus too much on this.

The 'going to France to end things' is a bit of a red flag to me. Often contact like that leads to things restarting you know? There may well be some ebbing and flowing there for a little while.

Your MIL's words echo what posters have been saying for a while. Your H isn't in a good place. And I think if you can feel compassion for him, whilst moving positively forward with your own life - that's the best way.

MIL can't solve his problems for him, only he can - and to be frank - until or unless he is able to maturely face and start working through his own demons and the mess his life is in....you have better things to be focusing on.

I hope none of this sounds harsh. But I just don't want your focus to shift back onto your H - because I think he's far from baked yet.

Keep being awesome Pink. Live and love your life. Heal from your D. Co-parent positively and have inner compassion for H's plight....who knows what life going forward may hold?????
xxxxxxx

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus