Sit and spin V

[asitis]

Yes, we pile lots of cr*p on ourselves (and our society and parents help a lot), like not ever being quite good enough, or beliefs about the way the world should work that messes things up and triggers unproductive reactions when reality interjects itself.

Many people think they have to become new people to be that good enough person, but it really is peeling away the layers of gunk that get in the way of the good enough person we already are. As painful as our M problems are, they allow us to see some of those layers and give us the painful motivation to peel some or most of them away.

In following your threads, you've been doing a lot of peeling, and you are already a good enough H. Whether or not your W notices in another question, but don't doubt that. Are we perfect? Never. You will make mistakes in DBing and as an H and a parent, etc., etc. Great confirmation that you are human like the rest of us. You keep looking at peeling away layers of conditioning and unhealthy assumptions about yourself and others, but never see that as a sign that you aren't already good enough and that the real you is somehow flawed. Just show yourself some compassion when you aren't perfect, and notice all the good things you've already done to uncover that self.