Wet ... yeah ... as far as the Looney-Bin, pretty sure I am already crazy as its the only way I can explain certain things ...lol. As far as my story, thank you for those kind words, yeah the work if they do come back is just as hard I am learning, especially when you have to hold back thoughts/feelings for the 'big picture' .... thank Heavens for this forum where I can unload and purge .. maybe a fuzzy 2x4 here and there ... does help knowing maybe someone can learn something from what is now a 2 year journey.
Mini Update:
As I mentioned I left in a not so chipper mood. Rode the Harley as W was spending her last Friday unemployed with S. Predictably W TMs me a bit .. 3 times, little spew. She is the youngest out of 5 so her style is to go ultra defensive and attack ... I ignored all 3 texts. Later on .. again like clock work, comes the TM about S showing his growth pencil mark on the door jam. Again I felt no need to reply. An hour later she TM asking if we were still going to the Post Session ... temp check to see how pissed I am I think. I let it sit for a little bit, then replied I was planning on being there, just as I hit send she calls.
She asked about the Post, I told her I was planning on going, she said "Oh ok I just wanted to make sure because Linda asked" (Uh huh .. sure Linda asked..lol) Then she got into this morning. I told her how I felt (upset understandably).... she started getting defensive so I stopped her and flipped the table, said to think about it this way, What if it was her, she was getting dressed and pulled out another womans blouse how would she feel. Lightbulb went off. Then she told me she feels like with this incident I will never trust her, I explained I did not see it as a trust thing, more of a salt in an open wound. Told her I did not think that shirt had just been left there recently ... not sure where it came from nor did I think OM has been there in the past couple months ... granted I admitted he could have been .. she has not been working, and sure he could have been over ..... maybe I was the biggest fool on the planet but I did not go there, more along the lines that worse case it was his shirt and accidentally mixed with S's stuff .. ended up in mine after laundry.
She told me she was surprised, she thought I was accusing her of sleeping with him recently ... I asked "Did I ever say that, even hint to it?" She said "no but..." I stopped her and said .. No But ... I didn't ... that stuff is on you, stuff you made up and projected on me .. I was understandably upset about the shirt but never went 'there'"
So ... that mess was talked out, she told me she was pleasantly surprised at how I handled it and admitted she would be upset as well. I told her all I want is to be understood when things like that do happen.
I am letting the T-shirt thing go, as I said its not about that really .. its all the other stuff. My needs, getting over the A, dealing with the STD... all that... but I know I have to be patient .... reading some of Sandis stuff ... takes time and I will have to continue to play nice, play along and possibly then W will be more able to be the W I need in this M ... if not, I know I can not live in this M this way long term ... read a tip from MWD and it made me feel better.
