Here's my take on things, they have moments of clarity and then they distance themselves once again. This happens quite a bit during the crisis and people begin to think that they are at the end of the crisis...not necessarily.
About your question as to whether he's still in the tunnel or not. He may be and then again he may not be. Only you can tell if he is since you are around him. Some start doing things around the home to appease their guilt. If he's still needing alone time in his room, then he most likely still has to think and process "stuff". This tells me that he's not ready to recommit to a full time relationship. He's still processing. How long will it take? It will take as long as it takes for him to figure himself out. You can't rush it.
Accept him for who he is today. Please try to stop figuring out where he is in his situation. You are going to drive yourself crazy. His situation will be over when he decides and yes, his clock is very slow. The best thing you can do is appreciate the things he is doing, acknowledge them and thank him for doing them. Continue to treat him as you would a friend. Expectations near zero at all times.
Keep the focus on you and allow the man upstairs to analyze, repair and return him to you a whole man. Dig deeper for patience and let go, let God handle your h and his situation.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
