Thank you. Yeah the mini-bombs have been there, like walking through a mine field and I have done pretty well getting over the triggers, the condo (aka love nest) The couch .. OUR bed. about a month or so ago I caught her checking out OM on instagram, I blew a gasket ... we talked it out and I left taking S swimming and told her anything that was OM related was to be gone...I had put some stuff away in the closet and discovered a box of condoms .. 12 pack .. 8 left ... yeah .. more gut punches I have not mentioned this to W .. anyways after she did the CLEAN OUT those were gone along with who knows what else was there ... she admitted the Christmas tree OM bought her she could not move herself .. but all was gone.
The T shirt thing ... I assume its OM's ... no idea TBH .. I just know its not mine and it set me off, but its not just about that and I know it ... that was just the straw that has me really thinking... IS this what I want? So back to that lesson I learned some time ago ... nothing has to be done today, I am going to let it sit for now. I agree ... there will be a time this has to be talked about but not now.