Sorry you are in this sandbax .. its a long haul thats for sure.
One thing as I read your sitch over in the other area .. sandi was giving you some very solid information there. The issue with boundaries.
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I said we could on a few conditions:
1. She had to end the A immediately. 2. She would see a therapist herself. 3. We would go to MC together.
From what I can tell/have read ... you are not certain #1 is being held to ... you think so ... I guess even in my case there is a point you can not be 100% sure. But #2 and #3 are not being done either .... if you place a boundary, you really have to dig in and hold firm otherwise ... just like with kids, they test, do what they want and push the limit .. over time she will not respect any boundary you put down .. its very important if you drew the line in the sand, you really need to hold to it and not waiver.
