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So she was blowing me up wanting to talk. I ignored it as I was working. Then she says this is the last chance, and I didn't reply her final msg says suit yourself. Like seriously after all the crap today you wanna talk/fight more or disrespect me more. This is getting frusterating. I can't even hear her voice right now. I'm sure it's just about bills that are coming up soon.

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What a long day today, hoping for a better day tomorrow

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It's a new day, I will try to stay positive. Stbxw has been blowing me up saying we need to talk. I don't feel like I'm ready to deal with the verbal abuse again. She is evil right now. What do you guys think?

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What is she saying you need to talk about...?

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She didn't really say, I'm assuming/believe it's about bills. Which turns nasty cause I'm not giving her what she wants. She wants me to walk with 90% of credit debt and I'm not willing to do that. Especially with the way she is trying to use me as a door mat

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She is pressing ... let her spin, you stay calm and within your boundaries. I told you she will spew, pout and throw a fit .. you are not playing according to her rules and it is ticking her off ... let her tire out, then get ready for the sugar-approach and she will try to nice you into doing what she wants.

Remember .. this was her choice, not yours .. you are just doing the best you can given the circumstances.


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Cali you always have good advice. And good knolledge I appreciate every comment man. And the rest of you thanks. It makes me look at things differently from the beginning

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Ok guys time to fill you in on my day,

I gotta say today I was actually happy. Stbxw stayed away and I felt good. Co workers actually said today was the first time they saw a real smile from me in the last month and week or so. It was nice and I was dreading the talk with the stbxw. Well just hung up with her and as I imagined I was mad for a split second but said to myself I am better off look at this I don't need it. I did send a long txt just letting her know how I felt. Kinda like my closure I don't want a response I just want her to know she made a mistake, and will eventually see it. And that I realized she has been verbally abusing me all along and now is when I have the strength to put my foot down. I will continue to better myself cause I know my mistakes in life. I feel bad cause she doesn't see her issues and will continue to live a life like that. I am truly a good person and I now see that. I've always put everyone ahead of my self. And you know I believe I deserve a better life and feel I deserve better at this point. My main life goal is to make my D #1 more then ever before. She needs me there especially with her mom being the way she is now. So all in all today has been a good day. Well all minus 5 min lol. Ok end of rant just thought I'd share with you guys.

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Wow and she has sent me a msg back. Actually apologizing for the mean things. And saying she hopes one day we will get along etc. I'm actually surprised this is the first time she didn't spew on me would you look at that.

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Well no fighting today definitely feels nice.

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