This situation is just getting worse! Got a message this morning that we are strictly friends I need to move out he can't keep doing this fighting with me and back and forth anymore! Well neither can I! I am sure it is my emotions running me right now but I wish I was moving! I think it would be so much easier but I know he would not be able to see my progress! He stated the other day I was absolutely not working on myself and I lie everytime I say I will! Back to me! Obviously we have text several times already this morning we are supposed to go out with D for her birthday I almost don't even want him to come! I am counting days down until he is gone for a week! Ok rant over back to me! How can I become emotionally detached stop arguing (more of the same) verbally abusive (more of the same) anger control(more of the same) less co dependent (more of the same)! I need to answer this! Let's start with anger! If I can control my anger that will help with verbal abuse stress could help with detachment as if I'm not angry I'm not holding power and resentment! It seems like anger and needs are what is holding me back! So how shall I deal with them? Small steps and goals! I need to recognize when I am getting angry journal my feelings and not hold in my anger but voice it in a calm way!
So goal: 1. I will take 3 deep breaths as I start to feel anxious 2. I will take a 3 minute walk to give me space 3. I will understand that we do not have to agree we both can feel our choice is best 4. I will re read validation thread and boundary thread
Anyone have good resources for anger and co dependency?!
