It wasn't a talk about the R so much as validating her feelings that I should not have thrown things in her face. It just sort of felt like the right thing to do. I'm inclined to believe she is not involved anymore. At least not talking or seeing the OM. I can't say she isn't still thinking about him, but that won't stop for a while from my understanding.
I figured I'd at least be able to make a 180 in terms of her feeling like I was self righteous all the time and not validating her feelings. Depending on the coaching session today I will either just leave it at that tonight or have a deeper discussion.
One question I have for my coach (and maybe anyone else here) is this. Would it be a mistake to recognize that I missed my chance to start making changes about a year ago when we first started to have some rocky patches? I just thought it was little fights due to stress and things always seemed to pass, but looking back I can see that she was really crying out for change and I didn't hear her. I guess it has to do with what stage we are in, but it feels like we might be in one stage with the WW, but somewhere else with the MLC.
M: 36 yo W: 36 yo S: 7 D: 4 M: 13 yrs BD: 6/14 (??) PE Confirmed 7/15 (4 months) The road to recovery starts now
