Seeing your post above, including the pasted advice from Sandi why are you still initiating talks about the R? I think it would be best for you to wait for your coaching session before you have these kinds of talks.
If she is in any way involved with an OP, you're incredibly unlikely to 'talk' her back into a R with you....
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