For today, and until you talk to the coach, I would say to treat her as though she were a boarder living under your roof. Be nice, talk pleasantly, and don't discuss the relationship or A......until you talk to the coach. I hope I have not caused confusion for you, but I thought you were first describing piecing.
I've really been reflecting on our conversation from Tuesday night and realized something. Toward the end she stated that there was no point in talking about anything because I was always right. She has said things like this in the past and I've always said I was sorry she felt that way, but I have never intended to seem that way. I have been polite, but distant and seem to be seeing some changes (small as they are, they are changes none the less). I felt this might be a good chance for me to pull a 180.
I wanted to talk to her last night, but after we went out to dinner and finally got the kids to bed we hung out in the kitchen for a few minutes just chatting while I fed the dog. She said she was tired and wanted to jump in the shower and get to bed. As I have been doing lately I said ok, good night, I might be up before you are asleep, but need to finish up a few things down here. She texted me and asked me to come up when she was done in the shower. We laid in bed and chatted again for a few minutes, but I knew it wasn't a good time to say anything. This morning after she showered I pulled her aside and said "You are right I should not have acted the way I did on Tuesday. I'm sorry for making you feel like I was throwing things in your face. Can we talk a little more tonight?"
She looked shocked and genuinely touched. She closed her eyes and shook her head yes. I think she was expecting me to either not acknowledge her feelings or that I was wrong. I've always tried to say I was sorry in the past, but maybe I didn't really validate her feelings when doing so and just sounded empty. I have to validate a little more tonight I think, but am looking forward to my time with the DB coach today to try to make sense of everything,
M: 36 yo W: 36 yo S: 7 D: 4 M: 13 yrs BD: 6/14 (??) PE Confirmed 7/15 (4 months) The road to recovery starts now
