I agree with 25, and I think we all need to remain aware that we may project things that are 'ours' onto others. We may also encourage them to follow our 'path' as reinforcement to ourselves that it is the right one. Ultimately, our posts should aim to help others ahead of ourselves.

The views OTU expresses remind me of the 'Chump lady' website. I googled it a while ago and it is good fun - in a caustic kind of way. But DBing it isn't, and I don't think this website and that one are compatible. Chump is more a 'dump their cheating @ss and get your self-respect back.' (Another poster commented a while back that she appears to have significant unresolved anger issues.) Okay, the 'Chump route' is an option - and I have no problem with the choices others make - but DBing is another option with more emphasis on self-awareness and growth.

I've chosen the DB option and I feel at peace with what I have done so far. This journey 'ain't for pussies' and the whole thing 'ain't pretty' either. But if we can improve our lives and ourselves from going through this painful journey - whether or not our spouse is in the picture - that's a good outcome to me.

Take care Ghost xx

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T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus