My lizard and her tunnel ...

[late30s]

Thanks, Cali. I always appreciate your input. I have been mulling this over all night. A big part of my apprehension about the boundaries is I have always related those to some grandiose speech -- I feel comfortable setting and maintaining boundaries at this point, without a big speech. I worry, I have had a terrible habit of jumping from one extreme to the other, when the middle ground would most likely provide the best solution. Something clicked tonight. I will get by without her. That doesn't mean that I have given up, but it is the first time I have had this realization in earnest since BD.

Minor update / journal entry.

I was scheduled to work both jobs today. I got to my night job and it was slow, so I was put on call for the evening. Once I left the store, I reached out to some friends and went and played cards with them. Didn't text or call W at all today. Big step for me, in the past I would have reached out to her to try to get together. I work a lot and spend the rest of my free time with my kids and with my friends. I don't often have free time in the slightest at this point.

Seen W about ten hours in the last four weeks. I have decided that I will no longer change my plans in order to accommodate W. My kids respect me, my friends respect me. I don't want to cancel any plans I have made with them in order to spend time with someone who doesn't respect me.