This is one of those rare occasions I'll disagree with my heroine, Ur. Not about the monkeys or dressing up.. I think she's right about that.
But I do think that part of your W's reasons for testing is not about you. She knows you have a lot to accept, yes. But she may be looking at it as something *she* wouldn't accept and may not be able to see how you can. While we all know that you aren't sure what you will or won't accept until faced with it, she is the one that put you in that position.
Talking like you deserve better than she has given you is part of it too. It may also be part depression and part of the acceptance of herself.
That's how it stands out to me anyway.
Kind of exciting to have a new relationship like that. One where you get to see what works and what doesn't while you learn to trust again(both of you). That's a fun stage in lot of ways, yeah?
AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
