I'm working on GALing, but until I find a new job (I was laid off in June) it is sort of tough to do much financially.
Whoa. Security is HUGE for a woman, and I suspect she's holding back a little with you because she doesn't feel safe financially.
Best thing you could do for your marriage and for your chances at reconciliation would be to land a good new job.
Also, your wife's FEELINGS are going to take awhile -- perhaps a good, long while (6 mos - 2 years) to return. It's her ACTIONS (transparency, going to counseling, etc.) and her DECISION to end her affair and work on your marriage that you want to focus on. Give her wide berth in expecting all of her feelings for you to come flooding back. They won't, not for awhile. And that's IF you had a job.
