V is for Vanilla 20

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Yeah - thanks V.
Your list is great I can see me getting very close to this level of dark (even with her living in the house) - I am wondering what 27. "No discussion of assets bought or sold, no flash cars (white van woman rules), no jewellery, expensive cars or posh clothes, bland and blah." means for you.

Sure no discussion, but if V is feeling flashy, V should be flashy too. V should be good and do things for herself.

Thanks for your list you gave me. I am getting there (haven't changed anything about my space yet - door is always open to them) - I definitely do not use the kids as messengers, but they may be messengers of what they observe from me which is good I think, but doesn't always make me seem very mysterious since the kids are always in the know.

(thought they don't tell me a thing about there mom - thought there is little interaction there).