Bob, I agree with Wonka, too. Especially after seeing her feel, I don't know, "rejected" by me just now? My saying, "No, sorry, can't be your friend. I love you, but I don't like you. I have to be authentic, can't just pretend you haven't treated me very poorly."

I am glad I'm being strong this afternoon, and letting her stew in her guilt. But it's amazing how I still have the urge to go upstairs and somehow smooth things over. It's really hard to just pull back and do nothing, to leave her to the OW and to put her in God's hands. It's hard, but this group is where I find the support and accountability to do so.

Thanks Bob, as always, for having my back!!!


Me: 46 Her: 41
M: 5.5 yrs / S: 20, 18
3/26 W and I meet OW
BD: 5/2/2015, she takes off ring
W goes to stay with OW 6/26
NC: 9/5 Both moved out: 10/16
I take off my ring and feel... healed: 10/19