are you implying correct strategy is continuing as before but being more focused on myself and not initiate anything. Continue like this until I realize I am not getting anywhere and then call it quits?
I really dislike that word "strategy", because it tells me you are implementing tricks to get your W back and then you'll go back to your old ways. She'll see right through that and it'll drive her farther away. You work on YOU. Period. End of story. Make yourself "the spouse only a fool would leave." Right now you are not that. You need to be, but it's going to take a long time. Do you have the patience for it?
