IF it turns around, it could be a month, 6 months, a year, 2 years....nobody knows. I am concerned that if you are already putting time limits on this, that you aren't going to be willing to see this through.
Absolutely right. Michele says in DR to allow one month per year of marriage. You've been married 25 years I think you said, so that would be 25 months of recovery. This of course is only the most general guideline, every sitch is different. But her point is you shouldn't expect progress in days, weeks or even months. Years is a more realistic timeline. I have a feeling many more marriages would be saved if the LBS had more patience. Often the WAS does express interest in reconciling but it's usually years later, and the LBS has moved on by then. It's unfortunate.
