Giving her the present back immediately (later would make no sense) may not get me closer but accepting it I felt wouldnt either. Just give the impression things are cool and she can relax. You think I should accept the gift?
I don't think you should do anything differently now. I have a hard time seeing how rejecting this helps your towards your goal, though.
Originally Posted By: Maximus
For me time is an issue because I have waited so long I just see myself in a year in the same rut.
How serious are you about meeting your goal? this situation is just not going to turn around quickly. IF it turns around, it could be a month, 6 months, a year, 2 years....nobody knows. I am concerned that if you are already putting time limits on this, that you aren't going to be willing to see this through.
Can you make it through TODAY? If yes, then don't worry about next year right now, you know?
Originally Posted By: Maximus
I am leaving for a trip tomorrow, do you think I should do a NC for that week or just not initiate. Let her send the sms?
Whether you go NC for a week or not is not going to make a ton of difference. The key is DETACHMENT. NC is a tool we use around here to help to achieve that. I Would say it's probably good to do, but in and of itself, it won't change anything.
