Whoa, my previous post looks like one of 25yrsmlc posts. grin Sorry for the length, but can you believe I forgot to mention something else?

But first let me get clear about something. You said:

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I hate myself a little for even letting her stay in this fight after what she has done. She lied to me for months about her affair and I let myself believe her. Her entire family told me there was an OM. I didn't believe it. I'm so angry with myself for not catching this sooner and not completely removing myself from her immediately.


Am I confused about the stitch? Is she or isn't she agreeing to everything you listed? The quote above, isn't it b/c you are angry about something she has stopped doing? Is she still doing it?

I just wanted to refer back to when you said you would have normally embraced her and didn't respond. I think, if you are in piecing, that you should let her make the initial advance to hug or kiss, etc., and when you see what she's doing, then respond to her in like manner. At this time, she may need to see that you are not going to press her about the touching thing. Slowly incorporate some non-sexual touches over days & weeks. Give her time to get her feelings straightened out again, and hopefully, she will initiate the first moves a few times.

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!