Who sets the appointments for things, telephones docs etc?
Is there an agreed list of who does which task? Ie I"I will always do X"or I will do C if you do B?
Who is better at paperwork? Who has the insurance contact?
Which tasks could you trust WW to do?
Who is your S most at ease with when dealing with the doctor?
Can this be reduced to a task list rather than a request or order list?
At the end of it all you are doing this for your wonderful S, can you see it as participating in his young life rather than WW ordering you. That is you choose it, and that WW expressing it this way is like the "jobs worth" who won't let you do something rational. If this is a boundary issue, then how could you express it and what would be the consequences of a breach? Could you enforce the consequences or do you need to take the high road and use the bucket called 'done for love of S'?
Reframe it so that the more you do the more of the essentials of your engaging S you are involved in, and thus the more love you are devoting to S and his health? Kids who are special often have a glow and naivety which is delightful at your S age. My orange wed GAL pal has a little grandson of 5 (nearly 6 you know) who is special and I borrowed him to see Minions with popcorn.........
You are clearly a wonderful caring and enlightened mum to your kids. I got enormous pleasure and warmth from your posts recently especially re your fun calm holiday. My cup was full of the strong love you have for them and they for you. I am shedding a joyous tear now.
V
Last edited by Vanilla; 08/06/1502:29 PM.
Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW
