So, if you're still playing along... in my previous posts there was some discussion about repentance and forgiveness. I think he knows I am willing & ready to forgive. I've couched this in terms of, "I believe you are an honorable man, even now. I don't think of you as a "villian" (his term). I only want the truth". To which he usually responds that he wants to know exactly what he's accused of and how. Which is just a ploy so he can create defenses by making counter-accusations. Or he'll say he won't discuss it on my terms.
The discussion in my first thread talked about forgiving before he repents. Are you saying to just say, "I forgive you" directly? Or how would you handle this in this sitch.
Me: 42, H: 38 Married: 12 years (second M for me) 14D, 9D 2015 EA (PA??), porn addict, *pastor/counselor* MLC
At a counselor, he said he wanted the marriage but not to work on himself w/a IC. Piecing?
