A day or so after she leaves I start reading the DB site again and see the old familiar themes over again with some way worse than mine. I click on my favorite veteran authors and search for words of wisdom and comfort. I click on some new ones and it leads me to the forum, “Setting Them Free,” it is an archived thread. They claim MLC is a crutch and what difference does it make if somebody says they don’t love you anymore and they want something else? Why do you want to be with someone that doesn’t want to be with you? They said one of you has to leave the house and it should be the one that is having the affair or wants out. Since that’s just what happened to me and everyone likes to be validated I read it and decided I’d follow the advice and see what happens.
It’s not that I don’t believe in MLC or the Wayward Wife, I do, I have one, it’s just that what I was doing wasn’t working so let’s try setting her free and going dark. At this point I had nothing to lose as she was long gone, at least in her mind anyway. It had become insanity, a wife taking relationship advice from a 58 year old cat lady that has never had a relationship male or female with anyone. Yet my wife though MC was a waste of time and would not follow the advice she was given. A 54 year old dressing like a 16 year old, cutting her slip because the mini dress was so short the slip would hang out from beneath the skirt. I didn’t know if it was my wife’s face or Marilyn Manson’s. If you live long enough you get to see everything.
I’ve had no contact with her for 2 weeks and the funny thing is that after 3 days or so I started to get those sickening feelings back in my stomach again. I moved all her stuff from the bedroom and any pictures and stuff neatly into boxes and bags and put them in the basement to see if that would help. It doesn’t, I’m thinking the finality of it all is setting in.
