V is for Vanilla 20

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Good list V - you are so thorough with everything.

I've kind of always had a question about going dark with WW and not going dim with the kids. I always let my kids know exactly what I'm doing, exactly when I expect to be home, if I am going to be later, I will text them (I don't want them to be conserned about this - especially d15)..... sort of what I'd do with WW when she was just W.

I don't ever say - don't tell your mom - I've never been comfortable putting them in the middle like that, but sometimes I have to be vague with them so my actions so my darkness is not inadvertently lightened by the kids. Being vague with them isn't what I want to be - I want them to be confident in me that I am not being secretive and lying to them. (I don't know if this makes sense).

Sorry - I know this is for me and not to help you (I really like your list) - but thanks

I guess I am looking for better strategies with this as I feel like this will be needed more upcoming than ever.