She tells me about 4 weeks ago that’s she’s going to move out in September and there goes my last chance. As I said I began to dread when she was home even though it was only 2 days a week and I’ve had a long time to get used to it. Once she said that she was leaving I just wanted her to go. About 3 weeks ago I’m getting my hair cut I go to the same place as my wife. It’s an independent person working in her basement that I had first met years ago and then my wife went to her. We get along great and I consider her one of my friends and in fact the only person I have told about this absurdity. She could tell something was up with me.
I used to go the same time my wife would go to get her hair colored. I would show up when her color was setting and get my hair cut. She’s lives in the same neighborhood and my wife would text me to come over while the paint on her hair was drying and I’d get it cut. Last time she did not call me so I had to make an appointment and go myself. When I go she asked how things are going and I tell her that my wife said she’d move out in September. She tells me that my wife had a “friend” over while she was getting her hair cut. I think it must be this girl friend and they drove together.
But no it’s a guy that comes in to get his hair cut during the paint drying time, my time. She said it’s was a friend from work. I describe him to her and she seems to think that is who it is. As they say they go for someone complete opposite of you and this guy is tall, younger and has a good job. However I have saved more than he will make in a lifetime so I don’t get it. Is this because I don’t put on a suit and take the train to work? Is it because I figured out how to make money from my home computer trading and investing I should be punished? That rental house brought in an income of $1400 a month with no expenses, it was fully paid for.
Something in me just snapped and I grew a pair and I was going to tell her to get out as soon as I got home. I took the garage door open out of her car I knew she wouldn’t be coming back. As soon as I saw her I said,“ I was at the hairdresser” (said her name) she said “huh” I repeated it in a more stern tone. She still didn’t get it or pretended not to. I was in a tough spot as I didn’t want to rat out my friend that told me plus she needs the money and my wife is a regular customer. I said, “When are you moving out? Her, “what’s it to you?” I say, “You have place to go and you’re going anyway so why don’t you just go.” I lie and say, “I have an attorney and I want you to go now” I take my pillows off the bed and walk out the door and she says, “Watch you don’t fall down the stairs, you’re old!” I ignore her and she repeats it. Again I let it go and she says it a third time and this time I take the bait and say, “Have you seen yourself lately.” This is standard practice for her and probably others in MLC to get you to say something stupid so they can justify their bad behavior. It’s always going to be LBS fault. Still wished I’d never said it.
I think another MLC trigger for her is the thought of getting old. I am six years older than her and she sees me as old and somehow sees herself as 16. I think a younger man complimenting her is the appeal also. She swears at me all night long but she is packing! Throws a letter at me that says I would never divorce her no matter what and I’d cut my arm off if it would fix this etc. Again, I did not follow the 37 rules did I? Now you know what doesn’t work, that was just a get out of jail free card to her. She could do what she wanted with impunity. I must have written that over a year ago and she still kept it. I did not recognize the person that wrote that letter, I read the first paragraph and tore it up before the rest made me sick. How pathetic is it to write something like that.
The next day at 2 pm she is gone but not before spending the morning cursing me and as a parting shot she says, “This wouldn’t have happened if you just got a job.” Again I think I have way more assets than this guy will ever have and day or swing trading is a job. I don’t make a lot but if I had all the money from the sale of the rental house I could generate more income than the rent from it and not pay any property tax. Then I remember this is not about getting a job it’s about reducing the amount of alimony she would have to pay and she could continue to spend more money on her selfishness.
