Today my wife asked me what my plans are with the boys. I told her that I wanted to take them to the All Star tournament we go to as Father and Sons annually. It started last weekend and ends this weekend. She said no staying over. She doesn't trust me because I was late on the house payments and the power was shut off while I was out of for Business training. She was to be home, but choose to stay at her mothers house. She could've paid it but didn't realize to pay it...my fault now that it was shut off. She said I lost them and that I have to earn them back and she wants proof that I'm on track. She wants pay stubs and proof that I am doing what I am suppose to. She said I have to pay her mom back for buying the boys shoes because one of them their shoe broke while they where on vacation. Well I haven't been around my boys and I didn't know my sons shoe broke. It's as though she wants to pile drive me into the ground for not providing. I told her that I have and will always provide for my boys. She again said I lost them and I have to earn that back. I told her there is no us (maybe I was wrong?)I tried to get off the phone but she was blabbing away,so I let her talk and i said I had to go cause I don't want to argue and never want to argue with her anymore it's not worth it.
This is a bunch of BS. She wants to be your patrol officer.
Get to a lawyer, get a court order and have a judge set up a schedule she can't break. You had better do it before her mother talks her into getting a RO against you from seeing your kids. It looks like she's trying to build a case here.
You cannot really afford to worry about meeting all her demands and "showing them to her", b/c this woman (and her mother) are not going to be appeased by anything you do. This entire reason she gives for leaving you and busting up the family is about as ridiculous as any I've seen. Because the power was shutoff? (How long did it take her to run to her mother's house?) Crazy! And, it's a lie. Stop fretting over this part about what she's saying. Believe none of it.
Now take care of business and protect your rights as a father!
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
