Okay this may not be in the DR book, I don't remember reading about it, but I have a stupid question. What are the truth darts posters keep talking about? Is there a thread about that?
Me:33 H:36 T:13 years M:10 years S4 Separated 05/15 H Filed 06/15
You are so right. Why is it so hard for me to think about me?
For years and years you put your husband first. we all were lied to by all those movies and romance novels that our spouse would make us the happiest people in the world. That is all BS. Not saying we can't be happy being married...we just know better now that it is up us to ensure our happiness.
We never learned how to please ourselves. We never even tried to learn what we REALLY want in our lives. I set goals when we got married. Well after 10 years I had met all those goals and I stopped trying. I never did anything for my own pleasure or at least nowhere near enough.
We were raised as pleasers, sacrificing our happiness for others. THAT cannot happen anymore, whether you are married, dating, single or whatever. It is tough with kids, but I see people living through their kids and that isn't right either.
I really hope you have a nice night... Hopefully get some peace of mind and some good sleep!
Okay this may not be in the DR book, I don't remember reading about it, but I have a stupid question. What are the truth darts posters keep talking about? Is there a thread about that?
No thread on it, truth darts are absolutely straight talking. Saying it as it is, making a bulls eye. So your mediator saying to your WH "you haven't prepared" is a truth dart. It is responding to rubbish, spew etc with absolute short sharp honesty. Then STFU and walk away or if on the phone "enough".
That's how I see it.
Just wanted to say , you handled the mediation superbly. Spot on (waving and cheering from the UK).
V
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Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW
oh my gosh I am so excited my sisters are taking me to the Dominican to an all inclusive resort for a WEEK! We leave September 7-12. First vacation in 7 years without H's parents tagging a long. I can not wait!
Me:33 H:36 T:13 years M:10 years S4 Separated 05/15 H Filed 06/15
I have a twin sister, identical. She lives 3 miles from me! My son used to call her Aunt Mommy when he was a baby. Haha. My other "sister" is my best friend that my parents all but legally adopted when we were 15 years old.
Me:33 H:36 T:13 years M:10 years S4 Separated 05/15 H Filed 06/15
Before BD day I was looking forward to this day for so long. It seemed like such a huge milestone to hit. The resentment is piling on today. A very sad day, extremely sad day today. Now it's just another Thursday.
I will keep standing. I will move forward. I will be okay.
Me:33 H:36 T:13 years M:10 years S4 Separated 05/15 H Filed 06/15
I know I should be trying to detach today but it pains me to think that today is probably just any other today to him. I want to hear from him so bad today.
Detach. Detach. Detach.
Me:33 H:36 T:13 years M:10 years S4 Separated 05/15 H Filed 06/15
