Thanks Cadet, at least I can tell myself "It starts today" every morning and just keep moving forward.
So after not talking yesterday and sleeping in separate rooms (I had our bed with the kids and she slept in our son's bed) this morning she is acting like a different person. I need to keep my distance and not backslide because she is pursuing me a little, but it was nice to have her come into the room before she left for work and lay in the bed next to me and just hug me like she missed me. She kissed me good bye (I was still half asleep so she only got to kiss my cheek) and said she loves me. She has texted me more today already than all day yesterday. I have been replying, but not initiating contact and have been generally polite, but short.
M: 36 yo W: 36 yo S: 7 D: 4 M: 13 yrs BD: 6/14 (??) PE Confirmed 7/15 (4 months) The road to recovery starts now