I love Wonka's reply, with one exception. I don't like the "I don't want divorce but won't stop you" sentence. That has been said many times in many ways already. I don't think you have to agree that divorce is best, but I might say something else myself.

For me, the words that come to mind are:

"I agree this is a necessary step, I certainly don't want to remain legally tied to someone that isn't interested in a committed partnership with me."

I don't know. Just my initial thoughts. I feel like you're creating some boundaries (I am not here unconditionally, I am here on the condition you commit to the M), some value (I am not desperate, I deserve a committed relationship), and a sprinkle of truth darts (she is breaking her vows and that is eliminating her from being someone you want to be involved with emotionally or legally).

Vets, if this is too controlling, accusational, manipulative- I'm open to that feedback. But I could feel ok about sending that message. So I'm asking for feedback almost as much for myself as for PP here.

Last edited by Zues126; 08/06/15 05:29 AM.
Me:38 XW:38
T:11 years M:8 years
Kids: S14, D11, D7
BD/Move out day: 6/17/14, D final Dec 15