I’d like to start out by saying thanks for reading this and any and all advice I’d be grateful for. I also wanted to post because I’ve been taking all this information and not giving anything back. I’ve been dealing with this by myself for about 18 months so I’m not the basket case I was in the first month or so. I wanted to post back then but I thought I could fix this by myself and I’d be writing in telling you all a success story in a month or so. Then she started to flip-flop back and forth from the girl I knew to the girl from The Exorcist and I went from elation to being stabbed in the heart. After a while it became apparent that I didn’t know what I was dealing with. I’m not sure I’m looking to save my marriage but of course any day now she could walk in the door and say, “Sorry, what was I thinking,” right? I just wanted to talk with people that are going through this and to get some advice on the day to day stuff.
I know I share my part in all of this mess. I know this comes from my point of view so I’ll probably make myself sound better than I am and her worse. In hindsight I’m sure we all could be better husbands and wives. I do think that no matter what some of us do the other spouse just wants a change before time runs out on them. I have questions to ask but they wouldn’t make any sense unless you knew some background and 18 months of MLC and almost 34 years of marriage is going to take some typing. I will try and be entertaining and laugh at the absurdity of it all so here goes.
I’ve been lurking for 18 months and I never thought I’d be posting. I didn’t want to post because I’ve read the MLC and LBS script and I know how it ends but I admit I need help and to talk with people who have been through or going through this quagmire. Married for almost 34 years I never understood why people get divorced. We had seen our share of hardships like everyone over 34 years but we survived. I’m 60 and she is 54, she is well educated I am what you’d call street smart or self educated, fancy words for someone with a GED. Got the ILYBNILYWY in March of 2014, I was totally confused as our love life had been the best it ever was. Thought it was just a phase but I started to notice her eyes seemed different, distant, you could look right through them and she wasn’t there. Her eyes would change from time to time depending on what MLC stage she was in. I made all the same mistakes a “newbie” does too like pursing, pleading, you name it I probably did it. I was in shock.
