IMO, it was helpful to know about the affair simply because it helped me reach a "low" that I had not been able to reach if I had not known. I was able to see how bad things had gone and it made it easier for me to begin the process of detaching myself. All that changed though when she allegedly cut off the affair and committed to working on our relationship.
M: 36 yo W: 36 yo S: 7 D: 4 M: 13 yrs BD: 6/14 (??) PE Confirmed 7/15 (4 months) The road to recovery starts now