I totally know about that. No matter how much you'd want it, "desperation sex" [censored] and you never forget it completely. Or at least, that's the case for myself.
I guess you have to be reluctant to believe what she says. I'm not sure I can agree about what Solo said about women turning off their emotions for sex. I'm sure that's very true of those who have been in affairs but for *most*, normal women... separating emotions/love from that is a terrible, antithetical thing! But everything else Solo said was great. ;-)
Me: 42, H: 38 Married: 12 years (second M for me) 14D, 9D 2015 EA (PA??), porn addict, *pastor/counselor* MLC
At a counselor, he said he wanted the marriage but not to work on himself w/a IC. Piecing?