Luke, thanks so much for the kind words...they mean a great deal.
Many of us were in marriages that were less than perfect. When we are in the act of living, we sometimes forget to nurture the important things...hoping they will be ok. Through this amazing and difficult journey, we learn so many things....like what matters and who we are.
You do have wonderful new tools, my friend. The hope is that you continue to get new ones and so does she.
This really is a new relationship and with that comes the normal growing pains of seeing what works and what doesn't and learning to trust again.
Though she sees your changes, her kneejerk reaction is to go back to what she knows in the way she relates to you.
She isn't sure yet if you are all in. That doesn't have to do with anything that you are doing and everything to do with what she is feeling.
It's an awful lot that you have to accept. She knows that, so she tests.
Consistent actions over time on your part will allow her to change how she reacts to things.
Originally Posted By: AJM
Somewhere with monkeys or northerners that dress as monkeys
