Sit and spin V

[HeavyD]

It's not about winning but being fair. I feel taken advantage of by her at every turn. I gladly let her have them for an extra day just because she asked. When I ask - gut punch. I get tired of it you know?

[Wonka]

Let.It.Go.

What's one more night?

You will have other opportunities where you'll get an extra night. Sit tight and let it flow naturally.

[HeavyD]

Suggested Response by text

W to clarify, you want to keep them Friday night? OK. What time can I pick them up on Saturday? Thanks and have fun!

How does that sound? I am clarifying and granting her request and not getting into an argument over whose day/week it is. I think the thanks part sounds cheery.

Thoughts??

[CaliGuy]

I think it sounds better Heavy

[Wonka]

Yeessssss....that's MILES better....

[ep0215]

Hi Heavy - man I would have sent the first text. I have A LOT to learn but I agree with the vets the second one is way better and will probably lend you to getting your way at another time. Good luck with the response

Just wanted to send my support

[HeavyD]

And the response I got:

Thank you.

I can drop them off it's easier for you. Anytime on Sat is ok. Your call.

Yes, Wonka, I know what you are going to say Honey....better than vinegar....

For the record, I resent having to bargain for my kids on whose days they are. I resent the whole freaking package. But it is what it is.

Did I tell everyone how much I love chit sandwiches? Mmmmm.....

[HeavyD]

Now I just checked my gmail and my W has sent out the Evites for S10 party. The guest list of course is hidden and so are the comments. so I don't even know who will be there. She listed only her phone number on the invite. Am I able to ask who is on the guest list? I would like to know as a cost control method or maybe that would be viewed as too controlling.

I should be happy that she organized it. I organized our daughter's last birthday and my W found nothing but fault with how I organized it, who I invited, not enough seats, etc....etc... It was terrible and very stressful for me but the kids didn't notice which is what was important.

The whole thought of this makes me so unbelievably sad. Sad that again I have to go through the motions around our kids, sad because of this whole mess. We're having his birthday at a put put place where we had his 7th birthday which was such a happy day for all of us. What a contrast.

I just have to shake it off .... the show must go on folks!

[Vanilla]

Just checking in Heavy. I haven't much to say other than I read much more detachment and I am smiling for you.

V

[HeavyD]

W texts me about S9 appointments, instructions, etc...etc...

S9 has special needs and appointments galore.

Wife feels the need to order me around to take him here, take him there, call the insurance company, speak to so and so, etc...

I know this is for the well being of my son but again..... feelings used and manipulated. If she can do all of this, why does she want to order me around? She treats me like a servant and has for the past few years. I have complained about it and she only laughs it off. I have told her many times I don't feel like an equal partner to her and again, no response.

I used to be the one who took care of the insurance, negotiated the deals, made the payments, and all of that.

What does the board suggest - keep on being the whipping boy/girl and do her bidding for the good of my son or let her assume the responsibility. I mean she has fired me.

Conflicted.