Just catching up, Cali. A few things stand out to me. Congrats on her getting a new job for starters. That's very nice. It also seems to me she is still developing a way to relate and talk to you. i.e. she seems to still start with being angry and spewing. My guess is that she's having difficulty with emotions to some degree and how to express them. She is learning though and so are you. Rather than the passive aggressive stewing you are facing it head on. Good job.
Keep in mind she has many more tools to continue to create and hone. So do you. Don't get lulled into auto-pilot, right?
I would expect that some things may "stall" a little. I.e. you're off to a great start and then things go squirrelly a little. Then back on track. That push pull dance? That's also part of things. She is learning to trust that you won't run (what's a guy got to do, right??) even if she shares her thoughts or gets angry. That's important as you grow together and as she finishes making the tools.
She tried the focus on yourself coffee cup wisdom. That didn't work for her. It never does. But there is a time and a place to focus on oneself. She seemed to need it and still does to an extent.
So do you. It's finding that balance together that you seem to be working on and both of you seem to be having some success with it.
How's the faith walk going? How's your son reacting? And where are you guys heading for vacation? Somewhere with monkeys or northerners that dress as monkeys
AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
