Thank you to all and goodbye to my W

[asitis]

Wow, I'm sorry I missed the fireworks so that I could add my sympathy. That is a really terrible blow to a noble endeavor (saving your marriage). I agree w/ Sandi2, that the intent her was to hurt you. You were not posting things publicly that would identify her to anyone, so you didn't cause any harm to her. That she snooped caused her harm, just as if you had snooped on her conversations with others about you (many of which probably got passed around the gossip mill to other people you know, unlike your comments on this forum), you would have heard her vent and say things that really hurt that she wouldn't say to your face (maybe).

You have helped a lot of people here, and I wanted to salute you for your efforts and insights. I hope you are able to save your M at some point if that is what you will still want. I do know that you are doing the hard work that will make you a great second husband for someone, if the other doesn't work out.

You will be in our thoughts and prayers.