Sorry for this turn of events. If it is really something you are going to come to loggerheads over, might I suggest getting a mediator? My preference would be to have one with a therapy background rather than a lawyer. You can address any other issues that will need to be worked out, but with someone sensitive to the emotional dynamics of the divorce process and the actual couple at the table.

Hang in there.

Me: 50 W:43
S6, S3
M: 12 yrs. T: 17
M is bad & Not happy Bomb Mar '14
S 5 Feb '15
D Bomb 13 Apr '15 (but "no hurry")
DB Coach May '15
Wants proceed on D Aug '15
Starting 1-on-1 negotiations Sept '15