Thank you Job so much. I needed to hear that (again) and I need to continue to work on leaving the past behind.

And yes, with H I will continue as I have been. I still follow his lead for the most part. He has been extremely sleepy lately. Dozes off, not like him at all. He says he does not know what is wrong with him/why he is so tired. His face looks tired too.

He now asks me for advice on certain things. These are "common sense" things he should know/used to know. I answer kindly and give no indication that it is odd he does not know the answers. This is hard as some of what he asks about is so "common sense" it is alarming he does not see the answer readily. Very alarming to witness.

But he is more capable of handling things that overwhelmed him even a few weeks ago. His patience is back to what it was. He used to be SO patient. He is no longer overwhelmed by kids' noises. When he does become irritable over something he immediately cracks a joke. He can again advise kids like a parent should. He asks about things I need help with, too. I tread lightly here. I want to encourage him and show appreciation but don't want to overwhelm him.

Me 41, H 47, M 15 yrs, S11, S13
BD 1: 11/4/14 we work on it; really I pretzel myself
BD 2: 3/31/15 H goes down to "dorm room"
8/15: H back to MBR
10/15: H back in dorm room
1/18: H files, now divorced