I was a W who had an EA. From reading your posts, I am under the impression you are not familiar with what happens to her when she stops the A.
She cannot give you affection at this time. She has to go through her own stuff, which includes withdrawal from the A. Even though you are willing to help her, I think you are expecting too much from her emotionally right now. Don't misunderstand what I'm saying. You are not wrong to feel the way you do! Your conditions are really good. You just have to understand more about her mindset. I have a thread about help for the newcomer LBH with a WW. Cadet listed it on his first post to you. It may help you to read it.
And if you jump in to file a D, then what have you accomplished?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
